A Couple of Things…

candle1.  As this post is just after our Presidential election and I know so many of us were disappointed, I thought I would start with this quote.  I saw a video clip of Ellen DeGeneres trying to help people feel better.  Ellen said her job is to be hopeful and to make everybody feel good.  I like that job 🙂   She reminded us of a quote by one of my favorite women who ever lived:
“It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.” – Eleanor Roosevelt


Halloween 2016Halloween 20162. Halloween was fun at City Hall.  We don’t always dress up, but when we do, we go all out.  This year the Transportation crew dressed up as Fast Food Mascots. We won “Best Group Ensemble.”  My co-worker, Derek, summed it up best when he posted on FB, “Food has always been the key to this team.”  Did you see my Fast Food Challenge I posted a few years ago?  (See Post)

The photo at the top shows Rick as the Meat Distributor guy (horse meat that is, it’s Halloween after all!), Sergio as Bob’s Big Boy, Derek as Burger King, me as Wendy’s, Frank as Colonel Sanders, Tom as the Pizza Pizza guy from Little Caesar’s Pizza, and Jeff as Long John Silver’s Fish and Chips.
I love that the so many of the team were so committed to their costumes!


3. There were a couple of incidents when I was growing up where I thought for sure I was going to be in the doghouse but my parents ended up laughing at me, like when I had to confess to my mother when she got up one Saturday morning that I had tried to help by ironing some clothes including her pantyhose.
Of course as soon as the hot iron hit the hosiery, it melted immediately onto the face and there’s no way you’re ever going to clean that off.
She looked at the iron, then the look of shame and resignation on my face that I would be in trouble, but she just laughed and gave me a hug

The other time I was about 8 years old; I was so angry and frustrated with my dad that I felt compelled to covertly display how I was feeling, so I gave him the finger, albeit behind his back…but he turned around just in time to see me flipping him the bird.  He just looked at me with shock, but then he tried to suppress a smile, gave up and laughed.  I’m sure he realized that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

It never truly made sense to me until I became a parent myself.  Sydney Rose was always a hoot.


4. Happy Veterans Day!
My father was drafted, never saw any action…but he still served his country.veteran


california-flag5. Did you know the Grizzly Bear is the State of California symbol?  It’s on our state flag.  Did you also know that the only place you’ll find a Grizzly bear in the State of California is in the San Francisco zoo? And that the last one to be found in the wild was shot dead way back in the early 1920s?

I’ve read articles on how to defend oneself from a bear attack and I’d always be worried that I would forget which way to behave because you defend yourself differently with a Black Bear than you would with a Grizzly Bear.

Black BearIt’s silly because I don’t spend a whole lot of time in the wild, but there are black bears in Ventura County and I have been known to take hikes and bike on trails off the beaten path from time to time.  Now I just have to remember, to carry bear pepper spray, stand my ground and make lots of noise, don’t climb a tree, and fight back.
Source article on bear attacks:

lettuce progressing6. In case you’re wondering, I haven’t killed it. It’s actually thriving!  My romaine lettuce experiment continues.  It still has a ways to go, it looks like the leaves would be bitter (undergrown) at this point.


7. I have one of those tracking devices you wear on your wrist to track the number of steps you take daily. The other day I was out running errands when I looked down and I saw that it was gone.  Dammit!  There’s $75 out the window. I decided to backtrack and went back through the different stores I had shopped at the mall but to no avail.  I was even checking out people to see if anyone had found it and they were trying to figure out how it worked. I gave up defeated and retreated to my car to find it in my purse next to my keys.  Yay for me!


8. Have you ever been disappointed when you find (what you conceive to be) a flaw in someone’s character?  And I clearly understand that when this happens, I know it is from my own point of view.  I’ve struggled with this. I try to understand and see their point of view.  I struggle because I don’t want to feel “superior” and if it’s a friend, I don’t want to think less of them.
I’ll be honest, sometimes I have more of a tough time with the justifications, than the original “infraction.”  Case in point, “It was only locker-room talk!”


9. Pudgy dad vs ripped bods
A local morning news crew ran a story about a new book by Yale professor, Richard Bribiescus titled, “How Men Age”.  He states, women prefer bigger bellies and flabby arms to “six pack abs” and bulging biceps.
I did some online research and found from on Gawker that their survey results showed that men still prefer ripped bods over “dad bod.”

Personally, I don’t mind a little pudge; they just have to keep up with me 😉

And by the way, you should get your mind out of the gutter!!!


Good Girls Revolt10. Now that I’ve delved into binge watching, my good friend Linda recommended an original series to me and having now gotten through the first season (I’m waiting with bated breath for season 2), I too recommend “Good Girls Revolt” from Amazon.  The series is based on (but takes lots of artistic license on) the 1970 sexual discrimination class action lawsuit against Newsweek Magazine.

There were a couple of scenes that struck a nerve such as when one of the supervisors told one of the women to smile, or when one of the women wore pants for the first time to work and was given a warning; or having to make the coffee, or when they discovered the salaries their male counter-parts were making.  It’s a great reminder just how far we’ve come, and a must watch for younger generations (but not too young, there’s a lot of sex, drugs, and rock & roll) to see as they may not realize it wasn’t so long ago that women had to fight for the same basic rights as men.


11. I confess that I got chocked up the day before the elections when I realized how close we were to electing a woman for president. I felt a profound sense of equality. Alas, it did not come to pass.


12.  In closing, as much as I am all for human rights and equality for all, I understand that in the end, our election process is not about whether we have a female president or not; it’s about selecting the right person for the job that our nation will get behind.

I’m not convinced we did that this year, but I do want our nation to succeed and be prosperous and so I will first hope that our divided nation will heal and will work together, not slack off, and help to make our government accountable; but more importantly, I hope that those who surround and work closely with Trump will help him to be a better man, and for all the love in the world, CLOSE HIS TWITTER ACCOUNT!


I concede that this quote is outdated as it’s becoming mainstream that women have wives too (again I get to mention Ellen DeGeneres), but I love this man, and so I share from my favorite quotes file: “Women will never be as successful as men because they have no wives to advise them.” – Dick Van Dyke

“The times they are a changin” – Bob Dylan

Thank God.

A Couple of Things…

cruise_vet1.  I took my dad on one of those three-hour cruises out to the Anacapa Islands and we had a blast taking photos and seeing all the pelicans, sea lions and dolphins.  No whales, but we found something even cooler.  My dad met a gentleman on the boat who is 96 years old, has been married for 77 years (his wife was with him), and he actually served under Patton.  What an honor shaking his hand just days before Veteran’s Day.
on the ocean
All in all a great day out on the ocean!


2. I just finished reading a book where the man’s wife dies, and later in the story it was revealed she was really alive. I hate fiction with story lines like that.  It makes it hard enough to let go of someone you love who has died, and this just feeds that false sense of hope that it all could be a terrible mistake.

If anyone could have pulled this off, my mother could have.  See she actually worked at Rose Hills Mortuary…so you can understand how my mind would figure out how she could have pulled it off.  Even to this day…


3. One of the aspects I love about Facebook is that you can reconnect with people you haven’t seen for literally 20 years but now feel like you’re a part of their lives, even though they live no where near you, and you probably won’t be seeing them for another 20 years, if that. I can private message as if we’ve been in the middle of a conversation.  I love it!


4. From my awesome headlines file:
Fake podiatrist sucks women’s toes
Giant Anteaters kill two hunters in Brazil.

Okay, so I read up on the anteater story because, “really?”  And it turned out that there were two separate incidents! Apparently these guys have front claws that are as long as pocketknives. So you just have to get in their way.

As for the podiatrist story?  It actually ran on CNN.


5. Is calling a man “adorable” a bad thing?  Or calling him “cute”?  Does it make men feel less manly or slightly effeminate?  I wonder because there are certain men I consider that way, and others I think of as artsy, or handsome, or that they are a manly man. Love them all, don’t get me wrong, but I hesitate to say, “You are so adorable!”

Turns out there is tons of info written on this very subject if you care to Google it.  My favorite entry, “Do the ‘cute and adorable’ guys ever get laid?”  It’s a question on a forum on a bodybuilding website.  I didn’t bother to see how people answered because I already know the answer which is resoundingly a “yes!”

6. I’ll be honest, I’m on the fence when it comes to Man Buns.


Google Maps7. This above satellite image of Ventura City Hall was brought to my attention by the crew I work with at City Hall because Google Maps had captured us during lunchtime sometime recently.  Clearly, this is a satellite photo of the guys doing their cross fit training on their side of the court, and me on the other side shooting hoops. How freakin’ funny is that?

Basketball court


8. I finally figured out how to Skype from my home computer.  I have one of those mini video cameras hooked up and I got the audio to work and everything!  But now, I feel like someone is always watching me even though I’m not connected.  To take care of that nagging feeling, I always make sure I have the lens covered up…just in case.


9. Have you ever walked into a bar or music venue and thought to yourself, “These are not my people!”


Halloween 2014(Thanks for photo Maggie)   Halloween last week was okay.  I really wasn’t planning on going out but I was slightly pressured to do so, so I put my hair up in a ponytail, put on a baseball cap and wore a safety vest.  I was a construction worker!  It came in handy when it started pouring rain and I had to run across the street to avoid getting more drenched. Cars saw me a mile away!!  The photo above is so bright just from the flash, so you can imagine getting caught in someone’s headlights!

Amanda-Me-PeggySide note:  I asked this gal to use my Canon camera to take a photo of us at The Watermark.  It took her FOREVER to figure it out and this is how it turned out!  I just laugh every time I look at it wondering just how drunk was she? Way too much head room!!


10. I had my first dirty martini on Halloween.  YUM!!


11. I read an article about which foods make you tastier to mosquitoes.  Included on the list are pickled foods, dairy products, Alcohol, Beer.  Yeah, I’m screwed.


12. From my favorite quotes file, “For evil to flourish, it only requires good men to do nothing.”  – Eleanor Roosevelt

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A Couple of Things…

Maggie, Dad and Eve1. So my father turned 80 years old this week.  That’s quite a milestone you know.  He’s 80 and still hitting on women.  What’s so funny is that NO ONE is surprised by that!


2.  Yeah, I’m so done with seeing ice water dumped on people. I am glad it helped to do something awesome, raising money and awareness for ALS, but come on already!  It really became a PR opportunity for people.  Now if we can have George or Brad in a white T, or even shirtless do this on video, I might actually pay for that.


3.  Shortly after my divorce I had a date with a man I had a crush on.  It was my first crush and only one for almost ten years after my marriage ended.  We had one date and then that was all.  I felt bad that he never asked for a second date until I spotted him in a grocery store this week.  Honestly, he was not really handsome then, but since he completely let himself go…well let’s just say it looks like I dodged a bullet, and that other expression WHICH I HATE, actually makes some sense for this occasion, “Everything happens for a reason.”


Charles Lloyd

            (Josh McNutt, Charles Lloyd, Dorothy Darr, Adam Randall and myself)
4.  I attended a screening of the documentary, “Arrows Into Infinity” about the life and career of Charles Lloyd.  Both Lloyd and the director/life partner of Lloyd, Dorothy Darr, were in attendance and did a Q&A after the screening held at Squashed Grapes.  It was a privilege to meet Lloyd and his life partner Darr.  He will be receiving the National Endowment for the Arts Jazz Master Award in 2015.


5.  I’d like to think that none of my friends watch “reality” TV shows like that Honey Boo Boo thing.  Seriously.


Halloween6. Madeline_movie_posterSpeaking of scary things, this post happens to fall on Halloween 2014 so I thought I would share another one of my favorite Halloween pictures with Sydney when we’d go out trick or treating together.  She was so freakin’ cute!   This particular year we went as Madeline and Miss Clavel from the Madeline book series, and then later of course the movie starring Frances McDormand as Miss Clavel.
I love Halloween for a couple of reasons:  kids costumes are adorable but mostly because I get my fill of black licorice and candy corn for the year.


Cookbook7.  Did you ever see that movie “Julie and Julia” about a struggling writer who starts a blog and works her way through Julia Child’s cookbook?  Seemed like a good idea, so while I was perusing through a recently acquired “Beginner’s Cook Book” from Home and Gardens (circa 1984), I thought maybe I would do the same thing!  Well, I probably wouldn’t blog on each recipe, but how great would it be to finally learn how to make my own spaghetti sauce or make pot roast and gravy?  Yes Maggie, I will cook for you.


8.  Not only do I get grossed out, but I get a little indignant when I discover a spider or mosquito bite, like I’ve been violated somehow.


Questionable Cupcakes9.  From the “Really Bad Ideas” file comes this news story, “Mom Bakes Vagina Cookies for Second Graders, Can’t Believe Teacher Has the Nerve to Refuse Them.”   Best line from the article is when the author wrote, I think vagina-inspired art is actually quite beautiful. I still wouldn’t bake a plate of vagina cookies and bring them to my grade-schooler’s class, because I’m not bat-shit crazy.”

Too funny!!!  Here’s the story for reference:  http://www.mommyish.com/2014/09/23/mom-bakes-vagina-cookies-for-second-graders/ I found it originally on the Huffington Post.
Warning:  Clicking on photo is not for the faint of heart.


10.  I saw an MSN story with this title (I copied & pasted it):  “5 People Who Only Vowed to Eat One Food”

Not to nitpick or anything, but shouldn’t it be, “5 People Who Vowed to Eat Only One Food?”   What they’re saying is they only made one vow, which was to eat one food, as opposed to vowing to eat only one food.  You get it, right?


11.  My knee has been really giving me trouble the past month or so and as a result, I can’t exercise at lunch so I’ve been reading. I typically have a book going at any given time, but I’ve been going through more books more quickly now. Nice for mental stimulation, not so nice for my midriff.  Next step, Orthopedic surgeon and most likely an MRI.


12.  From my favorite quotes files, “There are many little ways to enlarge your child’s world. Love of books is the best of all.” –Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

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A Couple of Things…

NotTheDog

by: Guy and Rodd

1.  You ever feel like the odd man out?  Yeah, me nether.


2.  First recognizing that you have fixed ideas is pretty powerful.  That takes an amazing amount of selflessness on your part.  But to actually see other points of views, and decide which is for the greater good, now that’s awe-inspiring.  Not many people have this ability.  And please understand, this is an ability.


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3.  I feel bad for people who have either a phobia about touching other people, or they just don’t like to be touched.  I love hugs, the bigger the better!!  That is, of course, unless I don’t like that person, then not so much.


4. I swear to God this was a news story on Yahoo.  The headline:  “Los Angeles Students Get iPad for Classroom, Play Video Games Instead.”  Duh!!!  That’s just good stuff.  They seriously didn’t see this coming???  One week after distributing the hi-tech tool to kids, someone hacked it and discovered how to disable the security restrictions blocking games, Facebook, etc…  These kids at least are thinking outside the box.

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5.  I love a really nice full radio voice.  But seriously, there are people who walk this earth who think they are “on-the-air” ALL THE TIME.  Also, I have a hard time with DJs who sound like they’re trying to having a “radio voice” as oppose to just speaking naturally.


6.  Seen on Yahoo Health, “8 Comfort Foods that Burn Fat”  The article listed pumpkin pie, hot chocolate, oatmeal, chicken soup, pot roast, roasted veggies, potatoes, and chili.  You could actually make a 4-5 course meal with all these items.  I wonder if you did, would you lose weight?  Yet another experiment I could get behind.

They also go on to say that hot cocoa can possibly ward off dementia in elderly people.


7. New Pearl Jam?  New Stone Temple Pilots?  I’m in!


8. I attended a family party last weekend.  Several of my cousins I grew up with were there.  I always love seeing them and catching up.  It use to be tradition that my cousin Michael would pick up Syd Rose and carry her around on his shoulders. Well since she wasn’t there because SHE IS IN OREGON, he decided we should take a picture of me on his shoulders.  I was scared to death he was going to hurt his back.  We sent the photo immediately via text message to Syd who got it while hanging out with friends in Portland.  She loved it!  I posted it on Facebook, however, I did not post the photo of Michael after he put me down.

mike-shoulders


9. I pity the child whose parents put the fear of the world in their heads.


halloween-110. I use to dress up for Halloween when we would take Sydney Rose out door-to-door.  One year we were Madeline and Miss Clavelle; another time she was a vampire, I was her victim, and yet another time we were Indians, she was Pocahontas.  It was more important to me that Sydney Rose embraced the goofiness, than me retaining my dignity.

My dignity has been through the wringer.  And somehow, I just get goofier as I get older.


11. Speaking of losing my dignity, I once walked out of the restroom at work (not City Hall) years ago, with my skirt tucked up in my panty hose.  Main reason I no longer wear them!  Panty hose that is, not skirts! (Yeah, I don’t have a photo for that one).


12. “The guy who isn’t rowing has time to rock the boat.” – Jean-Paul Sartre

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A Couple of Things…

1.  Summer is officially over.  Fall is here, but the time change isn’t until 2:00 AM on Sunday, November 3.  It’s always been a bit of a challenge to get through the shorter days of the year, but I find if I keep super busy with my evening website work, then time seems to fly.  Working on adding a store to VenturaRocks.com website as well as banner ads.

Halloween_2012

NEEDED: long blonde wig, blue contact lens, five years out of the sun, and a dress. HELP!!!

2.  The crew I work with at City Hall traditionally dresses up for Halloween as a group.  Last year we dressed up to look like one of our co-workers, Derek Towers. (see photo above, he’s the one wearing the bird head).  It has been suggested for this year that we dress up as characters from The Princess Bride.  I’m very grateful they want me to be the Princess Bride and not Valerie (the ogre woman).

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Suntan Vending Machine 1949

Suntan Vending Machine 1949

syd-tan

Evidence of my very white daughter

3.  Speaking of the sun.  I love the Sydmeister, but honestly, she could spend more time outdoors.  I immediately thought of her when I saw this photo of an old vintage suntan vending machine ad (see above).  When she was much younger, she would spend all kinds of time outdoors, especially at the beach and she would get a lovely tan.  Now, not so much.

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4.  Talking about making a difference and working on making a difference are absolutely two different things.  Talk is cheap.  Contributing back to society, and helping to improve conditions on this planet are amongst the worthiest things one can do. And you don’t have to start on a big giant scale.  Offer a smile to someone who is struggling.  Be a mentor.  Set a good example.   Give up your seat to the elderly, pregnant women and anyone having a hard time standing. As Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

5.  This is just plain flat out brilliant marketing:  There is a place in New York City called Dominique Ansel Bakery where they sell cronuts (for all intents and purposes, a doughnut made with croissant dough).  They sell them for $5 per cronut, with – get this – a limit of two per person.  That creates an instant buzz following the rules of Supply and Demand!  Actually, now that I think of it, they actually may be just a little evil!

baby-deer6.  If the fawn in the hands doesn’t make you warm and fuzzy, I suggest you check for a pulse.  I was going to call it a “doe” at first, but then the Sound of Music lyrics came to mind and I remembered, “Doe, a deer, a female deer…”  So I guess watching all those musicals growing up finally paid off!

7.  Some friends are harder to keep than others.  Some relationships are easier to nurture than others.  Some people perhaps are better left acquaintances.

8.  Have you ever come across a Tuperware container in your refridgerator and the contents were so disgusting that you just threw away the whole thing?  Yeah, me neither.

CCHR at Home and Garden Show Fall 2013

CCHR at Home and Garden Show Fall 2013

9.  Twice a year we have a booth at the Home and Garden Show here in Ventura for CCHR of Ventura (Citizens Commission on Human Rights).  We help to educate about the potential dangers of psychiatric drugs.  We encourage parents do their own due diligence if it has been suggested that their child be put on these drugs.  We ask that they do research on the side effects, long-term and short-term, as well as all the possible alternatives to drugs.  But more importantly, we ask them to seek help to discover if possible, the real why the behavior is occuring in the first place.
Every year 120 million people world wide are prescribed psychotropic drugs which includes nearly 9 million children in America.   (If you or your child is currently on psych drugs, please DO NOT go cold turkey.  Work with a doctor on how best to wean off medication).

10.  There is an element in society who thrive on spreading fear and bad  news.  So to counteract that, it’s imperative good folks spread goodwill and good news.  What have you done today?

11.  I recently had a man compliment me when he found out I have a 19-year-old daughter.  He said, and I quote, “I can’t believe you have a 19 yr old. You’re looking young, healthy and happy! Well done.”  I then wondered if I had to tell him how old I was when I had her.

12.  Seen on Facebook:  “I’m so glad I never jumped on the Muse band wagon.”  Liking a band is jumping on a band wagon?  What an idiot.  The music speaks to you, or it doesn’t.
977965_465793420169978_895115283_o13. Governor Jerry Brown just passed a law here in California (to go into effect Sept. 2014) that mandates a 3 foot buffer between cars and bicyclists.  I’ve seen way too many motorists come dangerously close to riders.  On the other hand, us riders need to take responsibility and do our best to follow the rules of the road as well.

14.  From my Favorite Facebook Posts file:  “It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.”  L.R. Knost

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A Couple of Things…

Immortal Technique

Adam, Tech and me

Adam, Tech and me

1.  I attended my first rap concert.  Glad it was Immortal Technique.  That man is all about social reform and making a difference to improve conditions.   Sweet guy too!

The management company contacted our website, VenturaRocks.com, and asked us if we wanted to do an interview.  Drummer, Adam Clark, knows Tech like no one else and so he was kind enough to do the interview.  But I got the hug!  And I got to shoot the show!!

It was funny because Tech just strolled up to us in the foyer at the Ventura Theater to get us when it was time to do the interview.  Nobody around noticed!  He’s very unpretentious.

2.  As much as I love people, I still value and demand my own personal space.

3.  During our recent “heat wave” I was clever enough to remember I live at the beach for fast relief.  So very nice!   Not cold at all!!

And what the Hell is that coming out of its mouth???

And what the Hell is that coming out of its mouth???

4.  Yet another life form helping my ego. This is the blobfish, recently given the illustrious distinction as “the world’s ugliest animal” by the Animal Preservation Society.  These bad dudes can be found off the coast of Australia.

5. Do you ever feel like you’re being guilted into “Liking” someone’s Facebook post?
Yep, have them all!

Yep, have them all!

6. J.K. Rowling announced that she will write a  Harry Potter spin-off movie series.  Yay!  The story line will follow the adventures of Newt Scamander who wrote the book, Fantastic Beasts, and Where to Find Them from the first movie.  Looking forward to it!

7.  A recent post on Facebook talked about how this particular woman wanted people to stop posting in the third person. Pam couldn’t agree more!

8. I saw a story headline on MSN under their “Living” section, which read “Happy medium: Celebs rock longer bobs.”  I took a second look because I couldn’t understand why MSN chose to say “longer boobs” instead of “bigger” boobs.  I quickly realized my mistake.

9.  Speaking of boobs, I always tried to correct Sydney (to no avail), that you have breasts, you are a boob.  “Breast” just sounds lovelier.  “Boob” not so much.

candycorn10.  I can tell Halloween is not too far off by the candy corn appearing in the candy dishes around my work.

11.  Met up with Eve and crew for a Journey cover band at the Collection in Oxnard.  I kind of felt like a traitor going over the bridge into another city for music.  Not the biggest Journey fan, but the band nailed it, especially the vocals.

12.  What’s up with those photos people share of really cute pathetic looking dogs with the caption that goes something like, “Tanner dies tomorrow if he’s not adopted.”

Most of these are from Texas.

13.  Went to Staples recently as I needed a new mouse pad.  Seriously, those things should only be $1.00!  Not $8.99.  And, if it has the word “Staples” on it, they should pay me to use it!  Just saying.

14.  From my “Favorite Facebook Posts” file:  “If a man speaks in the forest and there is no woman there to hear…is he still wrong?” – author unknown

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