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About A Couple of Things by Pam Baumgardner

Living the good life in Ventura, CA.

A Couple of Things…

Squashed Grapes Harvest1. Latest adventure?  Going out with the Squashed Grapes crew to help harvest grapes in the middle of the night.  Left the Grape at 11 pm and returned the next morning at around 10:30 am.  In return I get a t-shirt that says, “Will Work for Wine”. Totally worth it!!


2. Funny vs. Snarky.  I’d like to think I can be funny without being snarky, which is to say not poking fun at the expense of someone else.


3.  I saw a Depends commercial where they are encouraging people to show off their Depends.  I guess they’re trying to take away the stigma of wearing an adult diaper.  Well good luck with that.  I guess Depends will be cool once we see George Clooney in them.


4.  For my bi-lingual friends:  There is a band here in town that I had never ventured out to see until recently.  They were into their third song when it hit me like a ton of bricks what the English translation for their band name, Sin Chonies, is. Brilliant!*


5. How true is this?

Religious Truths


6. Is it just me or are the people who refer to Ventura as “Ventucky” a little redneck themselves?   Okay, That was a little Snarky.  True, but snarky. 😉


7.  It always makes it that worse when a headline includes a dead dog.  “Three People Including One Dog Found Dead Inside Crashed Car.”


8.  Mob mentality is a real thing; and it’s scary.  Just know this, you have the ability to rise above it.  I entrust you to do so.


9.  I wonder why people post cryptic messages on FB about who is a good person, or how great some of their friends are, or how messed up some people are, or how they only have a few good friends.  The best one I saw recently was, “I got the best compliment ever!”  That’s all she wrote.  REALLY?  I Un-friended her based on principle.


Robin Williams 1951 - 2014

Robin Williams
1951 – 2014

10.  From my favorite quotes file:

“I’m sorry, if you were right, I’d agree with you.” – Robin Williams

May you Rest in Peace Sir.

Thanks for listening.
 
 

*Translation is “without underwear”

A Couple of Things…

Me and Syd 20111.  I truly believe that laughter is the best medicine, but I also believe that music is the next best thing.


2. I recorded my first song courtesy of Christine Law.  SOOOO much respect to artists who do this for a living.  Grueling!!  It still needs beaucoup work, like lyrics, so don’t even ask.


3.  What does it say about society when you have to offer a reward for someone to come forward and do the right thing?


4. You know that expression, “A body in motion, stays in motion”?  It’s really true, and to be honest, I hate it; because a body lying about watching a movie and eating potato chips…with dip, and a root beer float, sounds so much more fun.


Arlo Guthrie5.  It just occurred to me why people love Weird Al so much (See #1).  Combining wit with music is genius, which also explains why I love Arlo Guthrie’s “Alice Restaurant.” It was tradition for the longest time to play the title cut every Thanksgiving.  I miss that!


6.  The Huffington Post had a blog called “23 Reasons You Should Go Hug Your Mom.”  Just a couple I would share with Sydney Rose:

a.  For every event that you tried to resist photos, because your mom is probably the only person in your life who will take more photos of you than TMZ does celebrities. She wanted to capture every prom, little league game, and academic awards ceremony because to her you are the biggest celebrity.

b. For supporting your decisions and dreams no matter where they took you.

There were 21 other ones, but really, they didn’t so much apply.  I thought about how sad this one was:  “For every time you acted like she was embarrassing you and she had to hide how much that probably hurt her feelings,”  Because I only remember the times she showed me off to her friends thinking I was kind of cool, which is the best feeling EVER!  My daughter rocks!

Here is the blog:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lexi-herrick/23-reasons-you-should-go-hug-your-mom_b_5584982.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000037&ir=Parents
Syd-mom-face


7. When I log on at 4:30 in the morning, I wonder how many people are up late, and how many are up early.  Sometime for me, I’m just taking a break from sleeping.


8. Life is full of interesting phases, obstacles, amazing highs and frustrating lows.   It’s the human experience that makes the ride worthwhile.  How one handles adversity is a character issue.


Father Serra
9. Someone, some time ago, made a statue of Father Serra and it can be found in front of Ventura City Hall.  Then someone thought it would be a good idea to paint a picture of this statue of Father Serra and that life-sized painting is found inside City Hall.  Then I thought, hmmm, how can I make this even more removed from the actual subject?  Hence, this photo of a painting of a statue of Father Serra. I do what I can to forward the arts. 🙂


10. I love silly headlines.  Here are a couple more I’ve come across recently:
a.  What happens if your parachute fails

b.  Super rich pets who live better than you do.

11. This was soooo me when I was growing up:

Even as an adult, my future ex-husband use to say that I run like an upright turtle.  It made me laugh because it was so true.


12. From my favorite quotes file:  “”Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” –Stephen R. Covey

 

Thanks for listening.

 

A Couple of Things…

1.  I love birthdays.  I love partying with family and friends, there’s nothing like it.  A couple thoughts about celebrating getting older:

a. Birthday dinner Age is a state of mind; however, one’s body isn’t always on board.

b. When people say, “You’re 29 and holding” that just means you look NOTHING like a 29 year old.

c.  I’ve gotten over the embarrassment of people singing “Happy Birthday” to me. I use to cringe, now I embrace it.

d. I rarely remember the gift, but I always remember who I was with and where we were at.  Friendship is the best gift.

e. I can’t believe what a charmed life I live.  Family, friends and this amazing community.  I feel the love. I will never take it for granted.


2.  Okay, I’m just thinking out loud here, but if a younger man flirts with an older woman, she doesn’t qualify as a “Cougar”, right?

That being said, Casey Abrams singing to me at Squashed Grapes recently was too freakin’ cool.  You might recognize him from American Idol.  He is self taught – by ear – on eleven musical instruments, the man is such a talent!  There were a handful of us hanging out after his show and when he sat down at the piano and asked what song we wanted to hear.  I said, “You know what I want to hear” to which he said, ‘I’ll play it only if you sit next to me.”

Here is a video that was taken afterhours when Casey Abrams performed “Cougartown”  July 26 here in Ventura:


3.  For my bi-lingual friends:  I love that somebody poised the question: “What if Soy milk is just regular milk introducing itself in Spanish?


4.  When you see an obviously photoshopped picture, don’t you wonder, “Who do they think they’re kidding?”


5.  As you may or may not know, I am on a quest to spot an owl in the wild.  I understand they are nocturnal, so I look at dusk and dawn and in the evening, but my night vision really sucks.  I spoke to my optometrist about it complaining that the Lasek surgery I had diminished my night vision, but sadly he said, “No, it comes with old age.”
Fucker.


Sydney in the Snow
6.  Funny anecdote from my marriage.  One weekend we decided to take Sydney Rose up to the local mountains for her first encounter with Snow.   As we drove through the winding roads, we finally got high enough to see the fluffy white stuff on our way to Mountain High ski resort.  It was at this point that Sydney started shouting, adamantly I might add, “NO NO NO!!!”  So much so that Chris stopped the car because we were so startled.  Turns out she couldn’t enunciate the “s” yet, so “Snow” became “No”!


7. On the subject of breasts, my daughter said she’s been told that more than a handful is too much. Of course, only small breasted women believe that.  HA!  I am JUST KIDDING!!! But that being said, of course men have their preferences.  I know a man who loves teeny weeny hardly-there breasts.  I never dated him of course because clearly we are not a match..


8.  Another real book title:  Knitting with Dog Hair: Better a Sweater From a Dog You Know And Love Than From a Sheep You’ll Never Meet.

Creepy?
Now I’m re-thinking those sweaters in my closet.  Is sheep hair kind of creepy too?


E.T.9.   Do you remember seeing E.T. The Extraterrestrial for the first time?  Or Jurassic Park or Indiana Jones Temple of Doom? Independence Day?  So thrilling!


10.  From my favorite quotes file:  “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”  – Maya Angelou

Thanks for listening!

A Couple of Things…

Mom1.  Today would have been my mother’s 79th birthday.  Honestly, I don’t think she would have aged all that gracefully, but it would have been fun to watch.  I’m sure she would have been that special grandma to Sydney Rose, the kind that do everything against your wishes, the kind the grandkids love!  And I would like to think she would have been proud of how her daughter turned out.   Well I’d like to think so.  🙂

Happy Birthday Mom.  40 years gone, and miss you everyday.


video2.  Seriously, Couldn’t someone have fixed my hair for me????
Here now, City of Ventura employees sharing how green we try to be:


3. My conversation with a gentleman at the recent Latino Business awards presentation touched on what people’s “exit strategy” is for retiring from the work force. Mine is dying. And believe it or not, I’m totally fine with that. I’m happiest when I’m productive!


Lay's4. How can something so good be so evil? I’m referring of course to the new Lay’s Cheesy Garlic Bread favored potato chips.


5. It’s no secret that I play guitar. It’s also no secret that I suck at it. But I was playing around one night recently and I wrote a song (well the music) and I wondered to myself, “Have I heard this before?” So I started asking songwriters that I know whether they question themselves on songs they write. Everyone so far has admitted they do.


James Garner6. I was saddened by the passing of actor James Garner this week. I wasn’t so much into his show, The Rockford Files, but I LOVED his movie Support Your Local Sheriff. He was a great comedic actor. Also, just an aside and a sort of Six Degrees of Separation, Garner was actually born, James Scott Bumgarner…so very close to my married name Baumgardner. So we were sort of akin. RIP in James Garner. He was 86.


7. I placed a button on VenturaRocks.com where readers and fans of the website can make a donation to defray costs. The first few weeks I actually had a VERY small number of contributors but I was completely jazzed. Two of them I had never met before! One of them is the Mayor of a neighboring City! But then I got to thinking, 99.999999999999% of the readers had not made a contribution. What if I charged an annual membership, and maybe throw in a t-shirt. Would that be too much to ask for this service? Would I be able to retire? I’m thinking no and no. I’m still hoping for the honor system.


8 My view on life’s set backs: You can overcome them, or defeat the. Those are the choices. When you say you can’t do anything about it, you have succumbed.


Facebook quiz9. Have you seen that Facebook quiz you can fill out to see “What is Your Old Person Name?” I’m afraid mine would be “Pamela”.


10. I love the kind of laughter when you can’t talk because your body won’t cooperate with what you want to say and tears are rolling the your cheeks… It’s the best!


11. From my favorite quotes file, “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” ― Oscar Wilde

A Couple of Things…

Sydney and Me1.  I freakin’ miss my baby!  First she had a car accident last Fall, and then last week she had her car broken into and they took her ID and bank cards (yeah I know, a lesson learned), tools and a basket full of a laundry which meant she had nothing but – and I quote – “Ratty clothes at home.”  Luck would be on her side though as the cops arrested a woman later that day trying to use her credit card (she had closed it) and she got most everything back but her clothes.  Her grandpa and I pitched in and transferred some money to her account so she wouldn’t be known as the ratty-dressed woman in town.

Sure there have been tough times, but she’s independent, she’s brave, she’s responsible and takes care of business.  I couldn’t be more proud!!


Domain Name2.  I received an email notifying me that the domain name, “acoupleofthings.com” is now available for purchase.  You see, I own, “acoupleofthings.us”, so these commie-rat bastards thought I might be interested in their $4,000.00 price for it.  I got a really good laugh out of that one!  Click on image to enlarge and see.


3.  I read an article on the Huffington Post called “37 Things in your Home to Get Rid of Now” and 9 of them pretty much apply to me:

  1. The extra packet of buttons that came with a cardigan that you’ve since donated
  2. Holiday cards
  3. The treasure trove of plastic grocery bags under your sink
  4. All the stacks of magazines you haven’t touched in months
  5. All the half-scrawled lists, notes and post-its reminding you of things you have no idea about.
  6. Old textbooks
  7. Paperback novels that didn’t change your life
  8. Any plastic storage container that doesn’t have a lid
  9. Instruction manuals for appliances you know how to use

Not that I’m getting rid of anything.   😉


4.  This is really a website:  www.WhatTheFuckShouldIMakeForDinner.com

For some reason, this one is blocked at work.


1944 - Jane Eyre5.  One night recently I woke up and couldn’t get back to sleep so I turned on the TV and Jane Eyre was on, the Orson Welles version from 1944.   What a bummer of a story; so freakin’ depressing!!!  I’m taking this off my “must read” list of books.


6.   I read an interesting blog called, “10 Life Lessons From A Navy Seal”.  My favorite was, “If you want to change the world get over being a sugar cookie and keep moving forward.”

It’s not always fun and certainly not popular, but reading this, I feel less guilty about “Just getting the job done” and not worrying whether I’m liked.  Trust me, NO ONE EVER has called me a “sugar cookie.”


Seaward7.  The funniest thing overhead at Surf Rodeo this past weekend:  Two surfers were walking up the street from the beach, one was walking gingerly, apparently injured while surfing, and his friend says to him, “You want me to get an ice pack for your vulva?”


8.  I use to get offended that it was okay that guys could go without their shirts, but it’s not okay for women (for two obvious reasons).  But I’ve decided to quit bitching about it and just enjoy the view.


Happy Birthday!9.  Facebook posts indicate the degree of how well you know and/or like someone when it comes to acknowledging their birthday:

1. HBD
2. Happy Birthday
3. Happy Birthday!
4. Happy Birthday Ken
5. Happy Birthday Ken!
6. Happy Birthday Ken!  I hope you have a fabulous day!!
7.  You’re sweet face always makes my day.  I’m so happy you grace our lives with your blah blah blah blah blah
(Extra points for adding a photo.  Extra extra points for adding a personal photo of you and them together).

10. From my favorite quotes file:  “The amount of sleep required by the average person is ‘five more minutes’.” – Wilson Mizener

Thanks for listening.

A Couple of Things…

Jackie, me and Linda

Jackie, me and Linda

1.  One of the perks of writing a blog is that it’s a conversation starter.  I’ll run into a friend and they’ll say, “Oh! I know what you mean about….”  I like that.


2.  Some women have gone way overboard on Nazi-feminism.  I get it.  But I’m still proud to say that I am a feminist.  I publicly admit it; but I’m also guilty of keeping stereotypes of women being a lesser sex alive.  I’m working on it, but whenever I get a fellow female up on the court with me, I tell her not to shoot like a girl.  How demeaning is that?  I saw a short clip produced by “Always” (a feminine hygiene company) about how it’s derogatory to say, you run like a girl.  or you hit like a girl.  They ask the question, “what does it mean to do something like a girl?”  Furthermore, they ask, “When did doing something like a girl become an insult?”

bb-stephenI shoot hoops like a girl, because I am a girl.  And you know what?  That’s pretty cool because I play hard and I love the game and I’ve beaten guys half my age – although not Stephen show in this photo with me.  But I have beat guys in their 20’s; you can put that in your pipe and smoke it.
The thing is though, it should never be men against women.  Boys against girls.  it should be, be the best you can.  PERIOD. Oh!  And have fun doing it!  #LikeAGirl

Here’s the video:
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3.  In a related subject:  I’ve never understood bands who glorify the demeaning or violence towards women.  Death metal, rap, whatever.  Do they think it’s funny?  Do their fans? Seriously, not cool.


mybeach4.  I like living at the beach and the feel of being a member of this community, but I swear to God, a small number of those short-term vacation rentals really discredit that viewpoint. Some of these “vacationers” are guilty of one or all of the following infractions:  they park illegally, leave trash on the beach, leave trash in front of the house, stay up late partying loudly on weeknights, have screaming kids, have yapping dogs.  Fortunately most are really nice folks looking for a fun time, but don’t really realize they are in the midst of a family neighborhood, not a vacation resort.


5.  In a related subject, Sammy is going deaf.  She has high blood pressure.  Even with her poor hearing, the 4th of July fireworks drove her crazy and her heart was racing.  Fireworks at the beach are off the hook!!! But spending the evening at home with the doors and windows closed tight and the T.V. playing loud is worth the sacrifice of giving up a holiday party or two.


6.  I don’t follow politics as closely as some, and typically only pay attention to National elections and California and Ventura politics, but I saw Congressman John Lewis from Georgia’s Fifth Congressional District post on Twitter that he was released from Parchman Penitentiary 53 years ago after being arrested in Jackson for using “white” restroom.  What an inspiration seeing that this man fought for injustice and then become a champion and leader in the same “white” governmental process.  Our own mini version of Nelson Mandela.


teatime7.  I read the following news story “‘Well-Behaved Kids’ restaurant discount sparks online debate” and I thought about it. I think it’s brilliant, mostly because we would have received the discount all the time!  You were a good kid Syd Rose; but then, we have to take some credit because we didn’t take you to a restaurant if you were feeling out of sorts.
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/well-behaved-kids-restaurant-discount-sparks-online-debate-1.2644240


8.  Going out and taking in live music never gets old for me.


BerlinWall9.  A little known fact about me:  I have a piece of the Berlin Wall.  When the wall came down in 1989, a listener of 96-ZTR had several pieces of it which he acquired while in Europe during that time. How thoughtful of him to give me one. It’s an ugly piece of aggregate material, but I can’t imagine tossing it out.


10.  You ever look at your Friends list and think, “Who the hell is that?”  Yeah, me neither.


11.  Tacit consent is a sticky matter.  You can argue all you want, but if you don’t stand up to evil or something YOU believe to be wrong, YOU are a part of the problem.  End of story.


12.  I would like to refute the following study:  “Wide-Hipped Women Have More Sex Partners, Controversial Study Shows”.  😉


From my favorite quotes file, “”Depression is merely anger, without the enthusiasm.” – Steven Wright

Thanks for listening!

 

Ventura Music Week 2014 Wrap Up

drumkitThis was the fourth year for Ventura Music Week, my second year helping. Even though last year was so much work, I was still surprised at how exhausting it is to pull this event off.

Of course each year the goal is to surpass the previous one, and I believe we did that. We generated more interest in our music scene, further marketing this city as a music destination. Of course you’ll always have Monday Morning Quarterbacks. To them I say, “Shut up unless you want to help make it better.”

Again, this VMW team is on a volunteer basis. Some of the team members are on a payroll for their perspective jobs such as Economic Development crew, Peter Brown and Lilly Rudolph, from the City of Ventura; Kevin Clerici and Meredith Hart from the DVO (Downtown Ventura Organization), David Comden from the VC Reporter; but Kat Merrick, Sam Benner and myself don’t work for companies that cover their time spent on this.

Kat Merrick owns Totally Local VC and is also hired by different companies to help on their event planning; Sam Benner has moved away from marketing and has started working in real estate; and while I work for the City of Ventura, what I do to help is completely separate. I take personal time off for meetings, and I use my vacation time during Ventura Music Week. Many of the salaried helpers went above and beyond their day jobs helping to pull off events and showing up to lend a hand.

Again we had around 6-7 people attending meetings and making decisions on the direction we wanted to go. We really did want to start earlier on the planning stages, but somehow we managed to work on rushed deadlines which added stress to the equation.

That being said, last year there were clearly only a few people working their asses off, this year, more of us were. I’m so grateful to Kevin Clerici and Meredith Hart of the DVO (Downtown Ventura Organization), for their support. Yes, they have a vested interest in seeing their section of town (DOWNTOWN), thrive, but they took control of the budget and financial aspects, rallied their workers on physical help, and ran so many errands contributing to the success of the week.

As a committee we also put on a handful of events including the launch party, a movie screening, a visual arts presentation of rock photographers and a wrap party.  Some were more successful than others, but again, “movie night” was one of the highlights for the week with a screening of the Academy Award winning documentary, “20 Feet From Stardom.”

All participating venues are responsible for their own entertainment. We just ask that they try not to hire bands/artists who are already scheduled during the week so we have lots of diversity.

Again this year we scheduled VMW so that the anchor event for the second weekend would be Roadshow Revival (RSR). We lost however Rock Picnic. No one could blame Brian Parra for throwing in the towel on this one, but I was sad none-the-less as this had been the anchor even for the first weekend. Taking its place were two solid events, the SRO Benefit (which just happened to fall during VMW), and the Global Guitar Greats Tour held at the W Gallery.

But as great as RSR is, we really don’t want this event to fall during graduations and Father’s Day. People have other things to take care of!  We’re hoping next year that RSR can be moved to an earlier weekend, or we’ll find another hot event to take its place.

Even before our first official meeting, there was some heartbreak for me personally as I worked with a national touring act who has members who live here in Ventura. I went back and forth with one of the members of the band and their management trying to work on having this band launch the week with a show at the Ventura Theater. It would have been AWESOME!! But even after we met their monetary demands, management passed.  I tried not to take it personally, but I truly believe, if anything business should be personal, and this left me heartbroken.

So with some air deflated early on, we still managed to increase participation up to 50 venues from 30 last year.

While Sam sets up the website, I once again took on the responsibility of entering in all the content.  That’s FIFTY venues, with their specific information, and then their entertainment line up.  Some changed, some came in at the last moment.  I’ll be honest, I spent over 80 hours on the website and Facebook setting up information, 40 before VMW even started, and 40 while it was going on.  I was up by 6 in the morning, I had to enter changes during the day, create downloadable PDFs of the schedule and update with some photos late at night.

We only had two people going out to as many venues as we could, checking in with social media, then posting photos to add to the excitement.  Even with only two people, social media was abuzz with all the events.  The wrap party at Discovery was super fun with some of Ventura’s top guitarists jamming including Tommy Marsh, Erik Lemaire, Guy Martin, Alastair Greene and Mark Masson.

It took several weeks for my head to stop spinning.  I had taken personal vacation time, but returning to work the next day felt more like vacation as I could slow down and focus on one task at a time.

It’s been over month and I’ve started asking for feedback from the venues on what they thought, and whether they thought it was worth their time.  None of the responses have surprised me.  Some can’t think out of the box and only think in terms of how it benefits them personally, but most do look at the bigger picture and know that this effort benefits our town and as a result, it trickles down to them with more people coming to Ventura to hear music.  But the responses I loved the best, were those who had ideas of how to better this event next year.

We’re gathering theses ideas, there will be changes, and we may lose some help from some of the entities, but we will certainly gain help from other sources. Ventura’s music scene is gaining more momentum and catching attention from neighboring counties.  We are putting us on the map and this is all worthy of our time…even worthy of our blood sweat and tears.

 

 

A Couple of Things…

reunionThis was my name tag badge from my last high school reunion. . I can honestly say though I’ve been through ups and downs, losses, and trying times, I never imagined having such a blessed life. I’m glad I didn’t know then what I know now. It’s been an incredible ride! If you were born with wisdom shining, wouldn’t that be boring? Games consist of overcoming not unknown barriers. Now with that viewpoint, let’s play!


1.  It’s been over a month since my last post.  I’ll be honest, I’ve been busy.  There was no time whatsoever while working on Ventura Music Week, and even after it was over, I was exhausted and not quite in the right frame of mind to express myself.  I find that when I’m tired, or irritable, I’ll usually regret what comes of out of my mouth.

I’m feeling more myself now…


vmw_0012.  Ventura Music Week 2014 is over. There was lots of blood sweat and tears.  To think there are forces that go against Ventura being a music town.  Last year we had 30 venues.  This year we had 50.  That’s 50 venues who believe that having music is a good thing.  50 venues who support live music.  Now that rocks and makes it all worthwhile.
vmw_002


3.  After a certain point in life you would think us girls would stop talking about you boys.  Yeah, you would think.


bugs
4.  I always admired Bugs Bunny while I was growing up.  I still don’t know if that’s a good thing or not.

 


5.  I saw this headline on the Huffington Post, “Janeane Garofalo Comes Out in Defense of Public Hair”.

I mulled it over wondering if Janeane was trying to help out women who wear burqas, you know, those mysterious veils.  Or maybe she was trying to help women who were always worried about their hair and how they feel they are judged.  But sadly no, Janeane was referring to PUUUUBic hair.  Yeah, the hair down there.  I missread, it actually said, “Janeane Garofalo Comes Out in Defense of Pubic Hair”.   I believe she said they were like eyebrows, which confused me even more.


Tina6.  Alice from The Brady Bunch passed away recently.  Her name was actually Ann B. Davis, but who didn’t love Alice?  Whenever someone mentions anything about the Brady Bunch it always reminds me of my former roommate Tina Bettiol who could – and I kid you not –  name that episode within the first five seconds of any show.


7.  I’m coming to terms with the fact that I can’t be trusted with a box of crackers.


bear

8.  I can’t even try to explain why the line, “Don’t poke the bear” made Sydney & I literally cry from laughter.    Loved Dr. Doolittle 2.


9.  My biggest hit day ever for my blog was the day I posted on Facebook that on my blog I talk about leaving my panties lying about.  Coincidence?  I think not.


10.   I SWEAR TO GOD, I saw this posted on Facebook:  “Am I aloud to throw in the towel and quit , and start over.”
And I SWEAR TO GOD, NONE of his friends commented on his atrocious misuse of the word “ALOUD”.


11.  I saw a poster online that read, “You don’t need religion to have morals. If you can’t determine right from wrong, then you lack empathy, not religion.”  Anonymous

I would like to add, “Religion without empathy is evil.  Those people are called extremists.” I know a few of them. Yeah, you can quote me on that.


12.  From my favorite quotes file:  “Not one drop of my self worth depends on your acceptance of me.”  – Quincy Jones

Thanks for listening!

 

 

Religious Rights

(This essay is not about the religion of Islam.  I know too many people this religion has helped.  Keep in mind, there are EXTREMIST in almost every religion.)

I have always known that I am a spiritual being; I have never doubted this.  I am a strong woman steadfast in my beliefs, yet I will support and  protect the rights of others to believe in the religion of their choice.

I do not engage in any discussion where the other person is not willing to take a look at other points of view.  If they have tunnel vision and are empathic that their religion is the only choice, then there is no discussion to be had.

The subject of religion is taboo in many circles.  Some people avoid it as it can bring up arguments.  I’ve spent a lot of time discussing religion with a lot of different people throughout my life.  The subject first came up in my household where neither parent followed a particular religion so they allowed me to make my own personal choice.  Then my friends and I would compare our thoughts on our personal religious choices, but as we became teenagers we started to question not only authority, but organized religion.

I’ve never tried to change someone’s beliefs.  I’ve never tried to convert someone away from their religion.  In fact, when I find a sane person who is happy in life and helps others as much as they can, I find that comforting no matter what their religion.

I have been personally attacked for my religious beliefs and it’s quite unsettling because I’ve never harmed anyone, in fact I do my best to help wherever I can.  And to be honest, it’s unsettling for about two minutes and then I remember, we live in a country where we have freedom of religion.  The fact that someone thinks they have the right to undermine someone’s religion is almost laughable…that is until I read about the oppression that still exists in other countries.

Have you read any of the articles about Meriam Yehya Ibrahim?  (Google her name if you have not).  I thought the first headline I saw was a little sensational, “Islamic court permits pregnant woman to give birth before she is hanged.”  Are you kidding me?  She has been tried and sentenced to hang for apostasy (a total desertion of or departure from one’s religion, principles, party, cause, etc.).  She is 27 years old, married a Christian, and is eight months pregnant.  She is also faces a sentences of flogging of 100 lashes for adultery on the grounds that her marriage to a Christian man from South Sudan is considered void under Islamic law.

Amnesty International and Western embassies are expressing outrage.  CNN, Time, NBC, ABC, and other agencies have been covering this story.  The White House released this statement the day of her sentencing on Thursday, May 15, 2014:

Statement by NSC Spokesperson Caitlin Hayden on the Sentencing of Meriam Yahya Ibrahim Ishag in Sudan

Today in Sudan, Meriam Yahya Ibrahim Ishag was sentenced to be flogged for adultery and to be hanged to death for apostasy because she married a Christian man.  We strongly condemn this sentence and urge the Government of Sudan to meet its obligations under international human rights law.  We call on the Government of Sudan to respect Ms. Ishag’s right to freedom of religion, a universal human right enshrined in Sudan’s own 2005 Constitution as well as the Universal Declaration of Human Rights and the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights. 

Since 1999, Sudan has been designated as a Country of Particular Concern for its ongoing, egregious, and systematic violations of religious freedom.  We continue to urge Sudan to fulfill its constitutional promise of religious freedom, and to respect the fundamental freedoms and universal human rights of all its people. 

I support the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.  I support religious freedom of choice.  I condemn this sentence.  I am grateful I have a choice, and I am grateful I have a voice.

(Posted June 23:  I would like to follow up on the essay I wrote last month on Religious Rights.)

It is a bittersweet victory today:

I rejoice in the fact that Meriam Yehya Ibrahim has been freed. An appeals court found that an initial judgement against her was faulty.

But while the judgement was faulty because the facts were inaccurate, it is still an atrocity that a person can be put to death for apostasy (a total desertion of or departure from one’s religion, principles, party, cause, etc.).

A Couple of Things…

Goofy GirlsLove her laugh!1.  Some mothers want time with their families on Mother’s Day, yet others want time off from their families on Mother’s day.

Me?  Just knowing my baby loves me and is thinking of me is all I really need.  It has to be, since she is over 900 miles away.

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My “Posthumous Happy Mother’s Day” Post from last year

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My previous post on “Being a Mother“.

 


2.  I mentioned in my last post that I would have another baby in a heartbeat.  The other night I had a dream that I did.  I felt a contraction, and then I felt something (you know, “down there”), and I pushed it out, and there was a baby!  The great thing is that while the contraction hurt (in my dream), the baby the size of a watermelon coming out a hole the size of a lemon, did not hurt.

I love my dreams.
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John & Kirstie2a.  In case you’re wondering where that quote orginally came from, it’s from Look Who’s Talking.  Kirstie Alley’s character, Molly actually says, “Why don’t you try squeezing something the size of a watermelon out of an opening the size of a lemon and see how hot YOU look?”  Love that movie!


With Maggie and Jonny3.  Well I did survive Cinco de Mayo.  Shots of tequila were involved, and thanks to Jonny at Amigos, some were free.  They had a gal going around with samples of new “organic” tequila which according to her, doesn’t add sugar to the distilling process.  I asked if a lot of others do, and she conceded that no, in fact they don’t.  But it was a nice selling point.


with Maggie and Kat4.  By the way, Maggie is the Queen of selfies.  This photo of course is not a selfie.  I call it, “the making of a selfie” courtesy of my father.


5.  Some days I learn more than others.


6.  While speaking to a co-worker about my basketball mix tape which has Linkin’ Park, Foo Fighters and Rage Against the Machine on it, I commented that one of these days I’m going to have to grow up.

His reply?  “Why bother?  We all die anyways.”

You are very wise Mr. Towers.


scuba_002scuba_0017.  I learned to scuba dive in a swimming pool.  It felt like I was at the bottom of the ocean…that is until, of course, the following week when I was.  Too cool, and completely exhilarating!!!

KXBS had me certified so I could talk about my experience on air.  I dove off the coast in Malibu, off the Channel Islands and then off the coast in Catalina.


8.  My new favorite video I came across.  The dog is not allowed on the bed, so the owners put up a camera to see what happens while they’re gone. Such joy!!! The cat? Not so much!:


9.  I heard that The Simpsons has been on the air for 24 years?  Crazy!  I’m kind of proud to say I’ve never seen an episode.


sriracha10.  The #2 ingredient in that devilishly delicious Sriracha hot chili sauce is sugar.  It all makes so much sense now.


11.  From my favorite quotes file: ““Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Thanks for listening.