1. Remember after a nice long hot summer that anticipation of the first day of school? Yeah, I don’t miss that so much.
2a. Speaking of school, I’m taking off this semester from college and taking this personal time to do a full body purification. I did one once over 25 years ago. While I realize I am not a body, I do have a body that needs tending to from time to time.
2b. Just in case you’re wondering, I am a spiritual being with this particular body. When this lifetime ends, the body stays (or in my case, gets incinerated), and I’ll go onto something else.
3a. I was reading a list called “10 Simple Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You Happier, Backed By Science” It was written by Belle Beth Cooper. Out of 10 points, my favorites are: “Exercise more – 7 minutes might be enough”; “Plan a trip – but don’t take one.”
3b. I love that someone narrowed it down to 7 minutes, and planning a trip is good enough, you don’t actually have to go! It’s the Antici—pation that boosts happiness. So mark shit down on your calendar, and look at it from time to time. Love it!
Your cat is asking for you.
4. I took this photo of Molly Monday night around 9:30 and sent it to Sydney (who moved to Oregon last week without her cat) via text message saying, “Your cat is asking for you.” Then, I swear to God, the cat disappeared until Wednesday evening. Half of me was dreading telling Sydney her cat disappeared, probably left looking for her, the other half, not so much.
5. AT&T internet providers blocked one of my postal worker’s union websites for security reasons. Patriotic Act? dDOS attack? I couldn’t work over the weekend on this particular website and lost billable wages. Commie Rat Bastards!
6a. I walked into my neighborhood donut store (I owed “goodies” at work because I bought a new car…this rule, by the way, is in the Engineering ByLaws), and I happened to have a bag of grapes I just bought at Vons. The woman behind the counter asked if I had tried the new Cotton Candy grape. I got super jazzed because I had read about these a couple of months ago. She brought some out for me so I could try, and yes, THEY TASTE LIKE COTTON CANDY!!! Crazy!
6b. So if kids (or adults for that matter) taste the sweeter Cotton Candy grapes, will they ever be satisfied with just the original sweet grape?
6c. And are these genetically modified grapes? And is GMO ALWAYS a bad thing? Cross pollination isn’t bad is it?
Crazy!!!
7. I work with a bunch of crazy-ass fitness buffs who do this gnarly cross-fit training at lunch. No comment. Just a statement of fact. I watch them from time to time as I have fun shooting hoops.
8. I recently read an article posted on the Huffington Post called, “23 Signs You’re Secretly An Introvert.” It was written by Carolyn Gregoire. I fit 15 out 23 signs. One sign is that you screen your calls, even from your friends (sorry bout that one), another one is that you’re a writer. I call “BULLSHIT!”
9. My new Nissan Sentra did not make the Top Ten Most Stolen Cars in America list. Yay!
10. I have a friend who is a gluten for punishment. See what I did there! She can’t tolerate certain grains yet she still eats them…. K, not so funny.
11. I had a bite of a papple this week. Technically, it’s called Asian pear, but it tastes a little like a pear & an apple, and Sergio from Engineering has dubbed it a Papple. Regardless, it was delicious!
12. From my “Favorite Facebook Posts” file: “Sometimes, the first step towards forgiveness is realizing the other person is totally bat-shit crazy.” Michelle Barlett
1. Sydney Rose has embarked on her newest adventure moving to Oregon. I finally wore her down and she allowed me to accompany her up there; however, she didn’t allow me to drive once (she was making a point that she could do it on her own).
The first day she played her music. The second day she didn’t turn on the radio or mp3 player once. She did however insist on playing car games. We took turns naming off the 50 states, we did it with Wisconsin being the last, and we played Twenty Questions. We laughed a lot and I’m so glad we had those last two days alone together. Looking forward to her coming home for Christmas.
2. Missed my flight back home in Portland; first time I’ve ever done that. Grrrr. Portland traffic SUCKS! Just saying. Got on the later flight all stressed out, but the Bloody Mary and the affable conversation with an older gentleman sitting next to me helped to ease the pain to San Francisco.
3. The little twin propeller plane to Santa Barbara put me right back on edge; should have gone for a second Bloody Mary.
4. Back home on Wednesday and I bought a new car because I officially handed off mine to Sydney in Oregon. I got myself a new Nissan Sentra. Cute little guy. I think he’ll do me right.
5. We had our final band practice on Sunday in preparation for our debut performance. Sydney Rose tagged along (spending as much time together before she was to leave town the next morning). Christine actually sang on one of the songs. I hadn’t heard her sing before. I told them how great they sounded and Charles said they needed to get me a mic too. Horrified I said NO WAY, I can’t carry a tune. Syd chimed in with, “Have her lip sync!” To which Charles instantly deemed Syd Rose band manager.
6. I did it! I made my band debut at Bombay’s Wednesday night (no lip syncing). I was nervous, yet excited. Having worked about 15 years in radio, I don’t mind being in front of people, but I’ve never played an instrument for anyone, and up until July, I had never played with a band. My band mates Charles and Christine Law made this girl’s dreams come true. Tommy Marsh joining us made us sound actually pretty good!
7. Thank you Amanda for loaning me the dress (I had to follow Christine’s mandate of dresses and boots).
8. Thank you Jonny Reese for the shot of Patron as soon as I got off the stage.
9. Thank you Diego for the :15 video you posted on Facebook.
10. My dad was there to support me, he even wore a VenturaRocks.com t-shirt! After the show he asked if he could have the pick I used to play guitar. Could you die? Too sweet.
11. My best buds were there to support even though I warned them I would suck. It was quite a rush creating something out of nothing and seeing people respond to the music. Charles Law is an amazing songwriter and I was super scared I would make a mockery of his song, “Corrine.” But with Tommy’s help it sounded pretty damn good!
12. As for “Sweet Dreams”, it turned out that there was a guitarist in the audience who actually played on the original with the Eurythmics as a session player (he allegedly has the Grammy to prove it). Seriously, this could only happen to me. We played the Marilyn Manson version which sounded a lot more like a White Stripes version and he came up afterwards and said, and I quote, “I like your feel.” I’ll take that!
13. Just saying…my band debut was everything I thought it would be. I had a blast! Thank you Christine and Charles Law! Your generosity humbles me. Love you!
14. From the “You Never Know Who You’ll Run Into” file: Having breakfast at Art’s Cafe here in Ventura this week and a crew of nice looking young men (probably in their 20s) arrived and sat in a nearby booth. The waitress asked where they were from as they came in a Mercedes Benz Van. It turns out that Gary Young was one of them. Shook his hand as he recently won the Gold at the X-Games in Barcelona for BMX Park riding. Nice guy. They were on their way to Santa Barbara for a demonstration at one of their sponsor locations.
15. The Saturday night before Sydney left, Molly, the anti-social cat, actually slept with Syd Rose. So, there is some minuscule amount of devotedness in her cold stone itty bitty kitty heart.
16. From my “Favorite Facebook Posts” file:
“Let’s not get carried away by the fairytale okay, Pinocchio was a Goddamn liar.” – Bodhi Elfman
Mary McGrath, Kat Merrick and Me with Jonny of Amigos behind us. Thanks Amanda!
1. The Ventura Fair is in full swing! The theme is Boots, Barns & Banjos. It was so much fun walking the parade route last Saturday with Kat and Totally Local VC. The float provided live music from Dan Grimm on guitar & Ian McFadyen on banjo and Jonny Reese of Amigos on air guitar. Photo above has Mary McGrath who represented locally grown pumpkins, Kat Merrick of Totally Local VC and myself supporting local music. The float took first place!!!
2. The second photo is courtesy of my friend, photographer Amanda Peacock. When I saw this when she posted it on Facebook I laughed because I had no idea she was shooting me. Then my second thought was, “What happened to my ass?!!!” Seriously! I use to have one!
3. My birthday, by the way (thanks for asking!), was amazing!! Went to the Getty Museum with Sydney, band practice with Christine & Charles Law, then drinks with the Laws, Eve, Kat & Chris, then a delicious dinner with the family, Staci and the Mimiagas at Aloha. My birth week started with dancing to Rey Fresco the weekend before with Maggie at Bombay’s and ended the following Friday with Linda (my oldest & dearest friend) for great music from Shawn Jones at Peirano’s.
Dancing, amazing music, delicious food, the best friends and family. Life is good!!!
4. I’ll be reviewing the no gift birthday policy with Kat. (See last blog)
5. Oh! I learned “Sweet Dreams (Are Made of This)” by the Eurythmics at band practice on my birthday, the Marilyn Manson version that is. But it sounds more like the White Stripes doing Marilyn Manson.
6. Double Oh! Thought of another life hightlight:
Interviewing Neil Patrick Harris while he was taking flying trapeze lessons in the Valley, then at the end, he surprises me with a free try. I can still recall the adrenalin rush with safety harness on, standing on tippy toes grasping the bar, and then taking a deep breath and swinging out. SOOOO SCARY!!! I was high for days!
7. Soon after I wrote that list last week of some of the highlights in my life I saw this and smiled. This is why I wrote it’s the PG-13 version: “Some of the best moments in life are the ones you can’t tell anyone about.”
8. I wonder, “Is it better to have the last laugh or to just take the freakin’ high road?”
9. I recently took a break at work and walked downtown to a local bakery where I not only knew 7 out 9 people there, but one of them was the mayor of Ventura himself! Love this town!!
10. I had my co-workers over for a beach day recently. One of us was brave enough to jump in the cold water. The rest of us…not so much. I need to toughen up if I’m going to learn how to surf!
11. Congratulations to my old friend and radio colleague, John Vance, who recently accepted the Fire Chief’s position in Minnetonka, Minnesota. He’s relocating his family from Granger, Indiana. Best wishes Chief!! Of course this means he’s only 1900 miles away as opposed to 2100 miles!
12. From my “Favorite Facebook Posts” file: “He who is devoid of the power to forgive, is devoid of the power to love. ” Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968)
1. I finally got back on the basketball court again after being ill and thought I’d ease back into it. But between Rage Against the Machine, NIN & Linkin Park on the headphones, it’s pretty hard not to go full throttle! They’re the best medicine; felt great to be back!
2. Call me goofy, but I get super excited when someone I like, likes me back. You know, you make a connection. And I’m not talking about men, I’m talking about people in general, including kids. Connecting with good people is about my most favorite thing in the whole wide world…right behind being able to help those who are worthy of help.
3. And just so you know, I know many people who don’t like me. You can’t please everyone. And seriously, I do my best to not let it affect me. But there are a few that I’m determined to win over!
4. And please don’t accuse me of seeking praise because I do love it when someone likes me and I made a special connection. You would be mistaking praise for camaraderie! Sociability is like an elixir for me! It cures all ails! I really do love social-personality people!!!
5. It’s my birth week and I’ve decided to start dancing again! It’s been way too long since I’ve gone out to dance. It may not be pretty, but I’m having a blast!!
6. Kat Merrick and I had a short discussion last night about the exchanging or the no exchanging policy of birthday gifts between friends. I like that a lot, because if the truth be known, I never remember what I got for my birthday, but I always remember where I was and who I spent it with. A good time is the best gift!
7. I don’t worry about dying. I worry a tad bit about how it will end, but not that this lifetime will end.
8. I’ve had more than one’s lifetime worth of experiences – here are just a few highlights (PG 13 Version):
Body surfing and building sand castles on hot summer days
Nailing water skiing on one ski, FINALLY
Going to my first rock concert: The Rolling Stones 1971
Having my high school crush call me out of the blue!
FINALLY graduating high school, and with honors
Continuing, by choice my education
Nailing algebra in college
Surviving my teens
Turning 21, FINALLY
Flying down the ski slope, completely out of control
Broadcasting trip to England
College trip to New York City
New Year’s Eve in Time Square
Seeing David Bowie in the Elephant Man on Broadway
Seeing Tim Curry & Ian McKellan in Amadeus on Broadway
Getting that very first full-time radio job offer
Falling in love
Being proposed to…a few times
Accepting a proposal
Getting married
Honeymoon in Kuaui
Buying a home
Finding out I was pregnant
Holding Sydney for the first time
Earning my program director stripes in radio
Live radio broadcast at Sea World, Disneyland and Catalina
Learning to scuba dive
Driving a speed boat full throttle, catching air, along Pierpont Beach
Behind the controls flying a twin engine airplane over Lake Casitas
Being flown in a aerobatic plane doing stunts over Camarillo
Mardi Gras in New Orleans
SXSW and meeting Trent Reznor
Receiving a Platinum Record from 311
Meeting Gavin Rossdale
Taking Sydney when she was a tot to Disneyland
Taking Syd & carload of pre-teen friends to Magic Mountain…riding rollercoasters
Launching a national music & entertainment magazine as editor-in-chief
Dinner party with Danny, Richard & Jenna Elfman
Shooting Pearl Jam, Collective Soul, Bush, Everclear, Better than Ezra, Sugar Ray, INXS, Third Eye Blind…
Getting my braces off, FINALLY
Vacation with Sydney Rose to New York City; getting lost in Central Park
Cougars winning basketball CIF championships 2011
Hitting my very first three-pointer!
Sydney Rose coming back home
Being served dinner by firemen in uniform.
Band Practice!
9. So when I think of the few low points in my life such as losing loved ones or my divorce, all I need to do is look at all the highlights and reflect what an awesome time I’ve had!
10. I’m ready to take on yet another year of living it up!
11. From my “Favorite Facebook Posts” file: “To me – old age is always ten years older than I am.” – John Burroughs
Today marks the 100th anniversary of the incredible building I’m lucky to work in as a full time employee (by day) for the City of Ventura. It originally was built as a courthouse by architect Albert C. Martin, but in … Continue reading →
2. Feeling better now and back to living a productive life! But not well enough to shoot hoops yet.
3. I have another birthday coming up this month. I haven’t figured out how to make that stop yet.
4. I’ve never been into Astrology, but the fact that I’m a Leo makes so much sense.
5. Just so you know, if it doesn’t get any better than this, I’ll die a happy camper!
6. I was thinking about what are my most treasured possessions? Of course I first think of people or animals, but they aren’t really possessions. They hang out because they don’t know any better.
7. So what about physical possessions? My Ibanez guitar, Spalding women’s basketball, loaded mp3 player, camera. Luckily all things I could grab all at once in case of fire. My photos are uploaded in cyperspace. I don’t really watch TV. I can’t carry out my furniture. I don’t really wear jewlery. So yeah, I’m prepared. If I’m not home, all these things are replaceable.
8. I find that more times than not, when a person is explaining something and then they say, “To make a long story short…” It’s already too late.
9. It took some time, but Sydney Rose succumbed not too long ago to Facebook, and I was happily surprised when I received a Friend Request from her.
10. I keep seeing posts about privacy concerns on Facebook and people trying to “declare their rights to intellectual property…” blah blah blah. My thought on the matter, get off Facebook if you are concerned about what you post. Seriously, it probably isn’t for you! It’s SOCIAL MEDIA! Facebook makes the rules clear as a bell when you sign up. Sorry Charlie!
11. Speaking of which, I do a lot of Facebook posting for VenturaRocks.com. What I don’t understand is why people don’t message you with a correction, rather than posting a derogatory comment for all to see about what is wrong.
12. A month an a half after Ventura Music Week and I think…yes, I think I’ve collected the last check and it looks like we made enough to cover all our bills. YES!!!
13. From my “Favorite Facebook Posts” file: “I’ve learned that making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as making a ‘life’.” Maya Angelou WORD
HAHAHA!!!Great Weekend in VenturaVenturaRocks.com!!!
1. I love saying, “I’m going to band practice.” Or, “I’m coming back from band practice.” Or “I just left band practice.” Or “Band practice was a lot of fun.” I’m driving Sydney Rose crazy!!
2. I LOVE BAND PRACTICE!!! Just saying.
3. Fortunately, I can only get better on the guitar!
4. And I thought my wrists were sore from shooting hoops! I had no idea!! Standing up playing guitar is a whole different ballgame.
5. We did a punk version of one of Charles Law’s original country rock songs. We fuckin’ rocked it!!
6. I imagine I’m a cross between Courtney Love and Chrissie Hynde of the Pretenders.
7. There is no reality in the previous statement.
8. Someone mentioned recently that life gets better after a certain age. I have to say that life gets better when you decide to finally chase down your dreams. You can do this anytime. Start!!
9. Next up, surfing!
10. Speaking of surfing…Surf Rodeo was this weekend. We had a blast! Sold all kinds of VenturaRocks.com t-shirts. Two days of fun at Pierpont Beach with music and surf, Ventura is definitely my kind of town!
11. The fact that I lost my hat, camera, and purse on three separate occasions during the two days of Surf Rodeo, and I managed to find all three in tact (eventually), only goes to prove how much Ventura Rocks!
12. From my “Favorite Facebook Posts” file: A friend recently posted a quote, but the author was listed as Unknown. It’s a worthy quote and I found the author:
“Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself” – George Bernard Shaw. I agree, “WORD!”
Ventura Music Week (VMW) was put on haphazardly by the City of Ventura the past couple of years. That’s not a derogatory comment about the City, but rather, a statement of fact. It wasn’t done properly because they didn’t have a staff and resources backing it up. They had one individual trying to spearhead it. Very little support was given. It was hard work and the end result didn’t get anyone looking forward to the following year. Eric, our hats go off to you for your efforts. Eric has since left the City and we miss him dearly.
This year, Peter Brown in Economic Development put out feelers to see if community members would want to take over . So Kevin Clerici of Downtown Ventura Organization, Kat Merrick of Totally Local VC, David Comden of the VC Reporter came together to see if they could pull it off as a group under the limited guidance and small funding by the City. Sam Benner of Benner Marketing was invited as his expertise in website design would be valuable, and Gary Stewart of Four Brix Winery had a graphic design background plus he could rally some of the wineries to participate. I was the last to be invited to the table as a representative of VenturaRocks.com.
There were seven of us working to pull of Ventura Music Week 2013. No one was being paid. This was solely a volunteer effort to see this through.
There were a number of meetings before I came on board and there were a number of decisions made that I was not a part of including changing the dates so that VMW aligned with Cash Fest (Roadshow Revival a Tribute to the Music of Johnny Cash). Another decision made was having highlighted events listed on posters.
The changing of the dates affected few, but those it did, it was a very big deal. VC Buzz had scheduled (actually rescheduled) their Ventura County Music Awards to align with VMW. I’m sure they were counting on the momentum of VMW to generate additional interest in their event. That was unfortunate, but I believe it was done with all the best intentions for VMW itself so there was a major anchor event (Cash Fest).
As for the highlighted events listed on posters, again I believe it was done with the best of intentions so that the venues would work hard on getting extraordinary talent for at least one of the evenings. If they didn’t, then it would be like any other week in Ventura (which is pretty awesome). So the group was hoping to inspire highlighted events which would be rewarded with placement on posters and on the VMW website. The problem? Venues don’t want to inspire their patrons to go to someone else’s event! So many of the venues not only didn’t place the posters on their windows, but they verbally complained, and one of them originally refused to pay the agreed fee of $100 to participate.
I still believe the highlighted events is a great idea, but separate posters need to be designed for venues. Venue posters should state how they are an official VMW venue, and generic info on VMW itself. Highlighted event posters should be distributed throughout the Ventura county, Santa Barbara county, the Valley and the City of Los Angeles. They need to what we have to offer so they would want to come to Ventura to hear our music and support VMW.
So you live and learn.
Also, the work load was not distributed evenly. After the intitial first few meetings, there was never another meeting where all parties participated. I would say that Kat pulled off at least 50% of the work, I did at least 30, maybe more and the rest was distributed by the remaining members.
Yes Sam created the website from a WordPress template. And yes Gary created amazing artwork for us and did all the promo for us. David arranged for all the media buys and Kevin helped with Treasury functions and some networking.
But the majority of the work fell on Kat’s shoulders.
My 30-35% including uploading venue information for the VMW weeksite and Facebook page, running around trying to sign up the venues, distributing products to the venues, party set up and tear down, running errands, and then showing up each and every night during the ten nights where I took pictures, and uploaded them at the end of the night, sometimes after 1:00 in the morning. VMW Facebook page was posted to dozens of times during every day with the events for all the venues, plus a calendar listing for that day. These I shared on our VenturaRocks.com FB page as well.
The uploading of venue information sounds easily enough, but there were photos to hunt down, upload resize, create posters for, and post for each event for each venue. We had 100 bands. 30 venues. 10 tens. 1 city. There was a lot to process just for the web presence. Plus there were always changes to schedules, and venues were not always available to answer questions or help with the data. They are busy too after all trying to make a living!
And again, keep in mind, as much work as I personally put into VMW, Kat did even more running around having meetings and getting this thing done. Crazy, no?
Trying to get venues to sign up was a real interesting exercise. As VenturaRocks.com, I haven’t had to really work with the venues. We just helped them (whether they liked it or not. The Golden China wasn’t even aware of us…Really? After 4 years guys?). But now with VMW, we were asking them to participate and to pay $100 to become an official venue. It wasn’t pretty for some. There were a few that didn’t participate and it blew my mind! One of them didn’t pay and the DVO stepped up to grant the money for them…and still they ended up calling it MY VENUE Music Week instead of Ventura Music Week on their personal promo.
And then there were certain musicians who didn’t make it easy on me as well. They weren’t happy with a photograph, or I had to get their authorization to help promote their gigs. OUT-FUCKIN’-LANDISH, no?
So I learned that some personalities make doing such an event more of a challenge. For me, the bottom line is to help make this City prosperous for all. To make Ventura known as a music destination where people come and spend money in our venues supporting music and our artists and musicians.
For some of the venues, they got it. For others, they had tunnel vision and it was not about the group effort for our town, but about what was in it for them. If the town wins and we pull this off, then they win.
We kicked off VMW with an official party at the W Gallery at the corner of California and Main in downtown Ventura. The VIP portion of the evening saw venue owners, some musicians, key players and councilman Carl Morehouse as well as Mayor Mike Tracy in attendance. The musicians who played were amazing. Dan Grimm kicked off the night, then Spencer the Gardener, old school favorites Raging Arb and the Redheads, then the McEuen Brothers. It was a success and we have the pictures to prove it!
For ten nights we helped to promote Venture Music Week. Some of the highlights included a screening of Dave Grohl’s film, Sound City: Real to Reel, a visional arts exhibit at the Museusm of Ventura County, a full day all ages concert at Plaza Park called Rock Picnic which included sets by 8Stops7, Army of Freshmen and Rubberneck Lions. Zoey’s pulled out the stops by having shows which included a show with surfer turned recording artist, Timmy Curran.
It was a great 10 days. We pulled it off!!!
After all was said and done, I sat down in Peter Brown’s office at City Hall for a short debriefing. I was tired to be sure, but satisfied until he asked me, “What’s in it for you?”
Stumped, I asked myself, “Jesus, can’t I just help?”
But now I’ve had time to think about it, and how much work was involved, and how I took seven of my own vacation days to devote to VMW, and how I used my own resources and how I wasn’t able to generate income during those days doing my own website work. And I have to re-evaluate, “What is in it for me?”
Next year we want to bump this up ten-fold. We’re going to start working on it 10 months in advance getting sponsorships lined up. We want to shut down Main Street and have a free concert with a national touring act to kick off the week. It’s going to be amazing!
But at what personal cost? How much am I willing to invest in this town for nothing in return?
It’s something I’m going to try not to dwell on as we gear up for 2014.
Jonny, me, Susan and SydOnes to WatchShe beckons me everyday at lunch!
1. Made the three hour round trip to Camp Scheideck last Friday with Syd Rose, and Jonny and Susan from Amigos. I’ve been watching the photos being posted on Facebook and I’m super glad we made the trip, because WE NOW KNOW BETTER! It’s a Hole-in-the-Wall dive bar with a fenced in backyard with dirt everywhere! Scheideck is three days of all our favorite local bands we can typically see any given week in Ventura. We had some fun, but stayed less than four hours. The highlight was driving back with Syd behind the wheel dodging wild deer.
2. A friend recently explained to me that it just might be better to change my Number One rule about NOT dating musicians to JUST dating musicians. Well I don’t know if it would be better, but it would be far easier!
3. A dear friend of mine told me this week that she and her husband would like to help make a dream of mine come true (k, get your head out of the gutter). I’ve been invited to play rhythm guitar on one of his songs with his band during his next gig at the Tavern. Then of course there will be the mandatory drinking of shots until drunk afterwards to feel like a real rock star. HELLYA!!!
4. I have to admit, every time I think about #2, I can’t help but smile ear to ear.
5. Had our first practice this week. Shit! There’s a B chord.
6. I’ve loved bad men. Does that make me a bad woman?
7. Being a judge for Zoey’s One’s to Watch was really HARD!!! So much great talent out there! I was very honored to be asked.
8. I keep teasing Sydney that the guys she’s been hanging out with likes her. She keeps insisting that they are JUST FRIENDS. And I almost believed her until she made the Freudian slip and said their relationship was just Playtonic. I laughed until the tears were rolling down my face. Too funny!!!
9. Speaking of Sydney… Years ago when Sydney learned that Prince is in fact actually a man, her response was, “Prince?!!! Sounds more like Princess.” Yeah, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
10. How is it when a group of people sing Happy Birthday, the one who is tone deaf always sings the loudest?
11. Today is Independence Day. My friend Kat posted on Facebook the first line of the second paragraph of our Declaration of Independence:
“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”
So I took a moment to review our Constitution. It really is incredible. Perhaps it should be mandatory reading to review it annually on July 4th. But seriously, if it were, it could start a whole new Revolution!
12. From my “Favorite Facebook Posts” file: “If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. BE KIND ANYWAY.” –Mother Theresa
As a civil servant, I don’t balk at jury duty like I use to. For starters, my job with the City covers my pay when I’m serving, plus, I would hope if I ever find myself in trouble, or if I were to need to address a civil matter through the court process, that I would have an eager panel of jurors who were fair and impartial. But more than that, I find the process utterly fascinating.
It was standing room only on Monday, the day I decided I would report (instead of calling day by day to see if I would be needed). There were 108 cases pending. The clerk assured us that 108 was below average and that a busy day would be over 200 cases pending. My name was included in the first group of 70 to be called up to Court Room #26 presided by Judge Young. As we entered the room I noticed the defendant with headphones on and his Defense lawyer was a pretty blonde. The DA, a pretty brunette was looking professional yet somber. There was the judge’s clerk, court reporter, an interpreter for the defendant and two bailiffs. There wasn’t an empty seat by the time everyone was herded in, and some of us had to take seats up on the juror’s stand. We were asked to rise as the judge entered the chambers.
I thought I was ready for what was about to unfold as I’ve been summoned over a dozen times, and the last time I served I actually was selected to be a juror; I passed muster so to speak. It was for a DUI case which the defendant was found guilty. Why people push the envelope hoping to be found not guilty when clearly, they are, is beyond me. But we are all given a chance to have our day in court, on our dime.
I have always feared that I would be called upon for a murder trial or worse a trial having to do with gang activity where I would be afraid of the repercussions for serving on that trial. But it turns out that there is something worse that I hadn’t imagine and I immediately found myself in a cold sweat as the judge disclosed the charges against the defendant sitting quietly in his chair with the translator headphones on.
This was a case of child molestation.
You could see some of the people start to visibly shake as the judge named off five horrific charges this man allegedly did against a child under the age of ten. We would soon learn that victim would be called upon to testify and she would be asked about what body parts he touched and what he did to her and what he made her do to him. We also learned that the defendant would not be taking the stand.
I’ve known two people personally where a former spouse had lied or had threatened to lie about child abuse or molestation to get custody of their kids, so after the initial shock, I was prepared to give him the benefit of the doubt. It became just a little bit harder to be prepared as the defense attorney on more than one occasion said her client was guilty of certain inappropriate acts, but that we needed to take each charge separately, and not to lump them all together.
For two full days I sat in wait as the judge, DA and Defense attorney grilled prospective jurors. There were 70 of us at the start, twelve were finally selected, and two were chosen as alternates. There were only ten of us left who were not called upon to be questioned.
During our last break I overheard one of the gentlemen whose name had not been called yet say that he was planning on buying a lottery ticket if he didn’t get called up.
I’ve been thinking about that. I can’t imagine anyone ever wanting to serve on a case like this. But worse yet, is thinking of all the children who never have the chance to get justice. And I think of all the people who don’t have the backbone to withstand the duress of going through such an emotional trying process. I would like to think I would man up.
Yes, I would have proudly served; and I pray I would have been fair and impartial.